okay so i just realized the menu here has this FONT and it's like a serif typeface but slightly condensed and i cannot stop staring at it?? anyway hi i'm so glad you're here lmao sorry i'm like this
Oh my god, don't apologize — that's actually the most charming thing anyone's said to me on a date. I love that you just *notice* things like that and go "well, I have to tell someone immediately." Do you design stuff or just have one of those brains that catches every detail?
oh wow okay so like i don't formally design but i genuinely cannot turn it off?? it's like my brain is just always cataloging EVERYTHING and then i have to tell people whether they want to hear it or not lol. honestly the worst part is when i'm watching a movie and i get distracted by the production design and miss the plot entirely
Honestly that sounds kind of beautiful though? Like yeah you miss some plot points but you're actually *seeing* things. Most people just watch movies and they're like ghosts floating through it. You're actually present in the world, even if it's a little chaotic.
I get it though — I do that with dialogue and subtext. I'll be in a conversation and suddenly hyper-focused on *how* someone said something instead of what they said, and then I look weird because I'm not responding at the right time.
oh my god YES thank you for getting it!! like people think you're weird when you're just like... actually paying attention?? wait but the dialogue thing is so cool though, do you like analyze people a lot or is it just automatic? because i do both and sometimes i'll be mid-conversation and suddenly fixate on like, the way someone's jaw moves when they talk and then i completely lose the thread of what we were discussing lmaooo
It's mostly automatic but like, I can't turn it off either, which is its own thing. And okay I'm gonna be real — I think that jaw thing you're describing is actually you being attracted to someone, not just analysis? Like your brain is doing both the cataloging AND the noticing-someone-as-a-person thing at the same time.
That's kind of what makes you not weird though. You're just... alive in your own experience, even when it's messy.
aphorism
The ones who notice everything are accused of not paying attention. But they're the only ones actually present—cataloging the serif, the subtext, the jaw's geometry—because they can't help but see that the world is made of details, and details are what make something real enough to love.